Some years back my husband and I decided to go on a marriage enrichment course. At one stage, we both had to complete a questionnaire about our style, preferences, strengths, weaknesses etc. The idea was that it should stimulate discussion as you compared answers, to help you realise where the other partner was coming from, and to understand better issues that might arise within the marriage. So we started going through our answers – and in every aspect, it turned out we had different approaches – save one. Neither of us was good at making decisions! How on earth had we managed through our marriage thus far??? Well we had…and still are! (Mind you, we’d never get round to making a decision to divorce even if we hadn’t!!!)
Terah made a decision to go to Canaan. There are any number of guesses as to why. “But” (Genesis 11 v 31) “But when they came to Haran, they settled there.” Again, any number of guesses as to why they stopped, but stopped they did. Instead of continuing on and fulfilling the decision,Terah settled for something else. I love the comparison with Abram a few verses later (12 v 5) “He took his wife Sarai, his nephew Lot, all the possessions they had accumulated and the people they had acquired in Harran, and they set out for the land of Canaan, and they arrived there.” In one verse, they’d packed up, set off and arrived! That’s decision-making at its best!
The difference with Terah, is that, whatever his reasons, at some point , he chose not to move on. It might have been a drifting sort of choice, or a deliberate decision, but it was his choice.
What we achieve in our lives is largely a matter of decision. There are, admittedly, some things we cannot do anything about. Sometimes we make a decision to do things differently, but many things we don’t do, are not done because we haven’t been sufficiently convicted to make them happen. We prioritise the things we consider important. So when we say we didn’t have time to pray for example, what we really mean is that we chose not to prioritise it.
I’ve made a decision! I’m going to get better at making good choices!